How to Improve Your Self-esteem: Tips From a Certified Coach

Self-esteem is a powerful tool that can help you navigate life with confidence. When you believe in yourself and your abilities, you’re more likely to stand up for yourself, set challenging life goals, and develop healthy relationships. After a year of quarantine, you may notice that you’re feeling less confident than you did before. In the following article, I’ll help you gain a deeper understanding of your self-esteem and how you can build your confidence. So what happens if I have low self-esteem? If confidence doesn’t come naturally to you, know that you’re not alone. Nearly 85% of people struggle with low-self esteem. If you’re unsure of your level of self-esteem, consider the following questions:


Do you constantly compare yourself to others? Do you feel like you’re not as talented, attractive, or successful as your peers? Do you need outside approval to feel like you’re doing a good job? Do you ever feel like you’re simply existing instead of living?

Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself or your opinions? Do you feel like you’re always ending up in unhealthy friendships and relationships? Do you put the needs of others before your own? Do you struggle to say NO?


If you relate to any or all of these, don’t worry, there’s hope! Can you build self-esteem? Yes! Self-confidence is just like a muscle. You need to work at it to keep it strong, and the stronger it gets, the more resilient you’ll become. It just takes practice.

2 Great Tips To Help Build Your Confidence As a certified self-esteem coach, these are the 2 confidence-building tips that have been the most effective with my clients. Challenge Your Self-Sabotaging Thoughts As you learn to stand up for yourself, one of the easier ways to practice is with your own negative beliefs. We say some pretty nasty things to ourselves, and it can help to actually challenge those thoughts with logic. For example: "I’m not good at anything.” When you catch yourself saying something like this, challenge the thought. It helps to write down your statement and make a solid case against it. List the things you are good at. List your recent accomplishments. Then read them out loud. By writing a list and reading it aloud, your brain will begin to believe what you know to be true in your heart. Keep this list to remind yourself that your negative beliefs are not facts. Identify Your Positive Qualities and Abilities Creating a positive internal dialogue is a great way to improve your self-esteem. Filling your brain with positive thoughts can help drown out the thoughts of self-sabotage that can creep in from time to time. Make a list of your positive qualities and abilities. Try using these prompts:


What’s the best thing you can cook?

What activities are you really good at?

What is your favourite feature?

What is your favourite quality?

What makes you unique?

What is the last compliment you received?

What’s your most recent accomplishment?

What’s something you’re proud of?


It helps to keep a digital copy on your phone to refer to when you need to be reminded of how exceptional you are.


How a Coach Can Help


As I mentioned above, confidence is a muscle that you can build over time. Like any type of training, it’s easier to achieve your desired results when working with a trainer.


My name is Tola-Maria, and I’m a certified self-esteem coach. If you’re eager to start living a life where you feel empowered to take chances, pursue happiness, and surround yourself with positivity, I’m here to help you get there. Schedule a session with me today and start putting in the work with someone that believes in your ability to unlock your true potential.


All sessions are available online or over the phone.


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